{Why I didn't do a bouquet toss at my wedding}
I decided to not do a bouquet toss at my wedding for a reason thats dear to my heart. It boils down to intentional living.
Walking by faith and complete surrender.
I kept mulling over this tradition ,we were very decided on not doing the garter toss (for obvious reasons),but I was asked by family if I would be doing the bouquet toss. I thought of different ways I could incorporate different things into the bouquet toss to give a deeper meaning , then just 'you'll be the next one married'. Ta Da!
I finally just decided that, nope, I wasn't gonna do it!
The basic meaning behind tossing away your bouquet to a group of clustered single ladies eager to catch the flowers would be that, if they could catch it fate would have in store a man for them to marry and they shall be next to be wed.
Now not everyone believes that tradition/myth to be true, its more of a fun and kind of joke that wins you flowers.
But.... I don't like the mentality of it. I strive to grow to be more intentional with my thoughts and actions. I had that season every girl with the desire for marriage goes through.
That season of being broken and afraid that there isn't a man for you out there!
Because the world tells you be your own woman, be pretty enough, successful....
and have that perfect Mr. at your side.
I learned there is so much beauty in being single.
Not just single, but a person who surrenders the desire of marriage to God and lives everyday to its fullest and in obedience to where God places them.
It is, in my mind, that having a bouquet toss puts marriage on this pedestal of something to be achieved, something better than where God had placed You Now.
I desire so deeply for young ladies everywhere to strive for contentment,intentionality, and praying for a spouse, if that is the desire of your heart, but surrender consistently the timing to Him.
Too many girls stop living to just be waiting and finding ways to get a man.
These girls miss out on what God has for them now!
They miss out on letting God write their love story.
God is something my husband and I are constantly striving to keep us and our marriage centered, but how much more beautiful and guided that is when He is the one that orchestrates you both together.
In summary I chose not to do at the bouquet toss because life is about so much more then just getting married.
Life is so much fuller and better when we are walking and enthralled with Jesus
that our lives every exciting, scary adventurous part of it is orchestrated by Him.
We make decisions, but He brings those opportunities to us!
He is the lover of our souls, writer of the perfect love story, orchestrator of all.
