Monday, December 12, 2016

count down begins


                             Can you believe its two weeks til Christmas!?! It feel like about two years since I posted too. O_o Yipes! What happened? Okay, I know what happened full time job and other responsibilities came up,but I am totally not abandoning this nook on the internet, its mine. Despite my currently messy side bar. ugh. I am a scatter brained work in progress of late. I literally tripped down the stairs face planted into cement and we blood followed. So you see where I am coming from.
But here we are my 2nd southern Christmas I feel like this year its flying by and I am scrambling around with so many things I want to get done by the end of the year,accomplish annnnnd yeah. I am slowly learning about prioritizing and the importance of caffeine (primarily coffee).
 Gifts giving and wrapping is a simple pleasure despite a select few people who are just plain hard to buy for!

          I thought I would spark some ideas if your still buying and wrapping here on the blog today!

                 I have a things with themes and gift baskets/crates/or really any kind of holder! 
           I am a visual person so I have to see, touch etc... in order to be inspired and get ideas.
      I could walk around the mall,target etc... with no idea what to get someone and get some ideas by the end!

-A gift-


 Whether your looking for men,women,kids or family gift inspiration! 
Click{here} to get that brain ticking! I had a genre/end goal/vibe in which I wanted,but was struggling with inspiration on exactly what to fill it for specific peoples preference.


 -Gift wrapping-
 I am a sucker for fun,classic, creative or simplistic wrapping. Pinterest is seriously the best help on this. I love that creatives can share ideas and creations through social media! 
Blessing and a curse?!

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                                    {and if you like to be extreme, SHE has some great ideas}


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                       Comment below so we can all in inspired for any last minute tizzy!


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Saturday, October 15, 2016

seaside


                                                   The ocean never ceases to amaze me.
                                             Its roar and crash of the waves. Its calming vibe.
                                              Its beauty and strength with each curl of a wave.
         Its the air erupts with its salty aroma and all senses are awakened. Hearing,smell, sight,feeling.
             The wind has texture,the wind sifting the sea salt it licks off the waves and kisses my face.
   My God created this. My Jesus loves me and shows me His strength and beauty within His creation. 
                   I could sit on the beach as the waves come up higher and be in awe of my Savior.
     As we had to leave our family vacation 2 days early due to hurricane Matthew I couldn't help,but think as the waves seemed to get angry and lift themselves up higher that Jesus calmed this with words. He spoke and the sea obeyed. 
                          He spoke and they listened. He spoke and with perfect obedience they submitted.
                                        How often do I quietly submit to what the Lord is asking? 
                                     How often do I forget He is all powerful and has all authority?
                

Falling out of church {21 and tired}

  
                                             
    Have you ever noticed the little under layer of church standards?
The church maturity charts, church guidelines (the kind never spoken directly,but always felt.)?
   The church presses upon their young aspiring adults and even young 20 somethings that they are not complete until________ ,but yet continuously tell them that they will be growing all their lives.
We hold people to a standard, we judge, and we develop opinions.Some biblical views, yes. Some are just because we've always done it/ that's the way its always been.

Take this story for example;
"A young woman is preparing a pot roast while her friend looks on.  She cuts off both ends of the roast, prepares it and puts it in the pan.  “Why do you cut off the ends?” her friend asks.  “I don’t know”, she replies.  “My mother always did it that way and I learned how to cook it from her”.
Her friend’s question made her curious about her pot roast preparation.  During her next visit home, she asked her mother, “How do you cook a pot roast?”  Her mother proceeded to explain and added, “You cut off both ends, prepare it and put it in the pot and then in the oven”.    “Why do you cut off the ends?” the daughter asked.  Baffled, the mother offered, “That’s how my mother did it and I learned it from her!”
Her daughter’s inquiry made the mother think more about the pot roast preparation.   When she next visited her mother in the nursing home, she asked, “Mom, how do you cook a pot roast?”   The mother slowly answered, thinking between sentences.  “Well, you prepare it with spices, cut off both ends and put it in the pot”.     The mother asked, “But why do you cut off the ends?”     The grandmother’s eyes sparkled as she remembered.   “Well, the roasts were always bigger than the pot that we had back then.  I had to cut off the ends to fit it into the pot that I owned”.


Growing up in the church I have seen this in the various denominations I've visited through the years. 
                            So much tradition they lose focus on why they are doing it.
Then you have the churches that are trying to be so different the stray away from things God intended to be in the church. They are trying to be the opposite of the non-legalistic church of their fathers and drawing in a crowd.
 The church has become a weekly occurrence in our lives. It has become a part of our life in the sense that its on the list with soccer practice. We know the drill,we know the line up, who's going to be there, who's 'not a team player', who's 'up there' in the Jesus stats. 
We put people up against a spiritual measuring stick, to compare like they are competition. 
We have the church stick of life that puts youth on standards of where they should be in life.
When they are completing different modules, marriage is a great example of that one.
Way to many churches put unmarried mid-upper 20's adults on the down low vs.  a married 25 yr. old because marriage completes you somehow?!
So the hunt pressure is on because its the next phase of completion in the eyes of those in church.

(disclaimer: marriage is not better or worse then single living, God has called everyone of different paths and each one opens different doors and grows us in different ways. Point being marital status doesn't define someones maturity just their experience. )

We have lost focus. Our prayer meetings are filled with information and requests, not intercession. We pray like we aren't LITERALLY at the feet of King of Kings crying out in His sons name.
We pray like the power of prayer is a tug on a rope and not a power that's pulling in the catch.
We lost the fear,respect,the awe of who He is.

  



 I am 21 and tired. 
Tired of the passivity.
Tired of the normalcy.
Tired of the mundane vibes of church.
Tired of the 'measure up' expectations.
Tired of the judgement and lack of accountability.
Tired of the lack of joy.
Tired of the lack of passion.
Tired of church and missing the dwelling place of God.











I want to see Pastors behind the pulpit, not because they are preforming their duties,but behind the pulpit excited to share His word, be preaching with their whole heart because its truth. 
Truth needing to be spoken not watered down. 
I want to see Pastors growing and learning not just the congregation. 
I want to see the church flourish. Like a wild fire that cannot be put out because the church is confident in the power of His name and are a walking in truth.
  I want to see broken people healing, I want to see people worshiping because God is holy worthy of all praise, I want to see no fear of judgement as we as a congregation lift up His name, I want to see people pouring out and being poured into because of Jesus not because its their church life! I want to see the older challenging,encouraging the younger. I want to see people yielding to the Holy Spirit, following scripture, I want to see the fruits of a life striving, purging out the bad because the more of Jesus going in causing to push out the unwanted garbage. 
I want to see Paul's walking in obedience,Daniel's walking in boldness, 
David's chasing after Gods heart even when they stumble, they will humbly confess and keep running the race.
Being transformed and not conforming to the world. 
Fighting the fight.
You cannot fight a fight if you aren't in the ring.

I am tired of seeing people being a church goers and not Christ Followers.
                                   I am falling out of church standards and expectations.
                                                  Because its not what church is about.

Sunday, September 11, 2016

within



The beast will not cease
he eats and gnaws,
reveals my flaws
my soul wears thin
and makes him grin
my imperfections
his profession
I fight, I claw
resist the crawl
I fall


My one comes to redeem my flaws
I hear his call
He makes me His
a warrior never to desist
To throw a punch
I have this hunch
the beast


will cease
I have the one
to sit on my throne
no longer just one
But three in one
in my home.

-Blythe.L 

(images via my trip to Seattle)

Thursday, July 14, 2016

Exhanging 'self-confidence' for 'Christ-confidence'


 If you have been following my blog you know or I hope at least you got the vibe that I am passionate about living out a set apart life devoted to Christ! The struggle is doing life in the world, enjoying life while keeping Christ at the core. Satan attacks every which way making some of daily choices a struggle.
 So many Christians today I feel are to comfortable,living in a rut and happy with the comfort it gives.
When we become followers of Christ,believing in Him surrendering our lives to Him, we are putting faith and trust in Our Creator. We have peace in know He is in control,that He already predestined us,His plan for our lives as we learn to walk in blind obedience is the most fulfilling thing ever!
 In these truths is a hidden basic,but important aspect, a Christ Confidence.
   Why is this over looked? What exactly are you talking about? Why does it matter?

Its overlooked because we have an earthly mindset. The more and more you are in the word and are spending time with Him the more you develop a heavenly mindset. You don't look at challenges with bleakness,hopelessness and see it impossibilities. You begin to see possibilities. Ways for His light to shine. The only impossibilities are the ones the world says exist. 
When we spend more time in the world and less in the word we see more from the earthly mindset as we let our mind drift. Our human nature is to follow,to go on what we know, when the world is your main source of information from day to day telling you how to think you will lean towards that. 
The world is obsessed with self, who also happens to be your worse enemy.
 You know that one tool satan just loves to use?! You are your worse enemy. 
Self is the focus of the world also being in control or who,what,how,you are you.
Key to appearing so solid and controlled is confidence!
Being confident in what You can do,in who You are, of what You have,of what You are capable of, to not let Yourself appear weak or helpless. 
You see how damaging that is?! 
Not that confidence in itself is wrong. Its where it lies that causes problems.
In this case not only is the focus on you,but also no credit or no apparent need for a Savior its all in your strength,power and being in the right place at the right time while making the 'right' decisions.

We need to be changing out of this self focus,self confidence attitude for a Christ focused, Christ confidence attitude. 
A Christ Confidence is knowing your purpose in and through Him. I am a very purpose and task driven person. 
When I know what to aim and work for,know the tools to equip myself with I can get to it! 
Knowing what your focus is on is pretty helpful. Its on the cross, the prize at the end of the race,preparing away for His 2nd coming.
Your faith, and our trust in the one who created you. 
 Your confidence and productivity in life excels when this becomes your lifestyle and attitude!
 You become glow drawing in those who linger in the dark.
You are hitting the target because you know where to point and your trusting the own who is teaching you!

The Purpose. Having a purpose (as I stated above) gives us as humans so much more motivation in life as we strive to live it at its fullest. 
A Christ confidence is the arrow in that purpose.
Let us simply switch out where our confidence lies (or lack there of), your fear and worry is now minimized because you know are not alone and you know the one within you is greater than that of what is in the world.
And the word "know" is the greek word ginosko, type of "know".
Its not just head knowledge,but heart knowledge.
Have you ever read a passage several times and "know" it,but that time you begin to study it or experience something that you applied it to your life and now  all the sudden you Ginosko know it?!
Hopefully your getting the idea.
We are commanded several times throughout the Bible to not fear. 
We can walk confidently and boldly in the simple truth that He who has promised is Faithful to fulfill. 
God cannot lie.  
Life is such a beautiful gift that is made even more beautiful when we live out what we were created to do with a humbled confident joy! 
Nothing is more beautiful then seeing someone struggling through the challenges of life filled with joy and peace. That joy,peace and confidence in knowing that it will all be okay, its the overflow of what happens when you begin trusting and focusing on our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
 Living in complete and utter surrender to Him.
I cannot put to words they way I want or how it ought to be put other then saying 'the truth will set you free.'  
Will it be easy? No. Will it be an amazing crazy wildest adventure? Yes!! 
We are called to something greater than even we can fathom! 
We are Saints, we are Chosen, we have been equipped and given a task, we are loved and trusted in, we're not alone. 


Sunday, June 5, 2016

Onward



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"The waters are rising,but so am I" 
 - Catherine Booth  
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(siblings shot -3,but  +1 in law.)

                                
  What a crazy past few months. I feel like I have had barely time to breathe as summer has jumped into full swing for me, its beyond just warm down here in Alabama and really been taking some adjusting to (heat and culture).  Its becoming my reality rather than just another trip for a few months. I am not going back to Ohio, to my country road in a small town with all its familiarity. For all of you that have moved out of state before extra points to you,this one of the hardest things I have ever done. Its really hit me the past 3 month like a sack of bricks. Its just so very...... different.
 As I grow and change as a person everything familiar is different,my sister got married as soon a I arrived back from Colorado,so even my family is changing as quickly as my surroundings.
Culturally and just in general life is different down here (I know I have said this repeatedly), I see a face that you think you know only to realize its not them and you will never be able to bump into that person at Walmart ever cause they don't even live in a near by state. So for all the poor Alabama people that I have stared at in stores I apologize!


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 "I am with you Always" Is enough for my soul to live upon, no matter who forsakes me. "
- Charles Spurgeon
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I have enjoyed adventuring through Alabama 'meeting' new places and people realizing God has placed me here for a reason and growing in that as I am struggling through my fears and homesickness to see the beauty God placed in front of me.
Every time I cry out to God He hears my cries. 
His response isn't always immediate or how I want.
But He has heard each tear that has dropped on my pillow as I voiced that I couldn't handle this change,I couldn't adjust,why would He place me here,why can't I be where I was comfortable. Then He comforted me with His promises. 
He has continued to refresh my soul with the little things as I become overwhelmed,He would bless me with a beautiful sunrise drive to work, whispering nuggets of truth and promises to my heart, putting a smile on my face as I see the sun rays shine through the trees onto the newly blooming flowers.
 He felt each tear that I felt stream down my face as I prayed in the mist of feeling isolated and alone, Then He sent a special friend that I wasn't expecting. 
I still don't understand God and His timing,but I know that it is perfect even when I don't recognize it right away. Never does He ever forget our dreams, never doe He ever ignore our hearts cries, never does He ever leave those of whom He died for to be alone. I have learned more about faith this past year in such a whirlwind starting from when I decided to go to the ranch. Its crazy beautiful to see Gods hand work in anyone's life. I am becoming more of a fan of journaling and writing out my heart in prayers and see God answer them pages later,sometimes in away unexpected/not the way I asked it to be answered,but God blesses us and you can see His love in every act.


                 Despite all the struggle in the past 7 months that I have officially lived here I am excited to be stationary for awhile and build my photography to where I want it to be and actually work on having a real business, putting all doubt aside and pursuing my passion with a side of a whole lot of prayer. 

I have been blessed to have taken family photos for 2 families at our church to help build my portfolio along with an opportunity to go to a photography workshop in Nashville (to refresh my soul and start feeding myself in the creativity sense.)



       In summary months of change,growing and pushing onward have been and will probably continue as I experience my first southern summer, but I am excited for a year of growth, of learning,walking by faith and walking in the plan He has for me. Putting all fears aside.
                     As I strive abide, be bold, love, and be still.

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What has been your biggest struggle,but yet your biggest growing experience pulling you closer to our creator?
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Friday, April 15, 2016

spring is for a fresh starts and trying new things // update



                I never realized working full time could keep me so busy.
                      This spring has brought along its own new challenges that call for stepping out in faith and being brave with the little things. 

I have been listening to Lauren Daigle // Trust in you and just praying about direction.
He's been reminding me through it to surrender all 'my desires', my wants, my dreams, my fears to Him and trust in His plan. Taking one step at a time.
Turns out that is harder then I thought it would be. I am not a patient person.
Gods timing is perfect I am slowly learning that more and more in every new season of life.

I am still adjusting to the south and preparing for my first Alabama summer! EEP!
If anyone has any tips on surviving it I am all ears!

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Here are some highlights of life lately includes;

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  •  Meet my newest addition! So excited to start using my 35mm 1.4 ART Sigma for shoots. I am seriously so stoked I can pretty much ignore the $ tag! It just took me a while to take the plunge.


  • Going through my sisters wedding images not even caring if it makes my heart ache.
                                         


  •  Water color projects. I have been whipping up a few pieces as I experiment with water color.  It has been the best relaxer/stress reliever and it was refreshing to do an art form other then photography.

  •  I have really been crushing on instagram lately as a social media art format. On top of my personal instagram, I finally got a photography one. *happy face* I procrastinate on everything,but so glad I can have a instagram that I can start on creating a brand with for my photography and using all the # for my new state as I have relocated.







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What have you all been up to lately? 
 Comment below, because I would love to hear what has been occupying your time of late!

Friday, April 1, 2016

created


  He didn't create me , for to just to merely exist.

                He created me; 
               In His Image,
              For His delight,
              For Worship,
               To lift His name.


Ps.149:4
For the LORD takes pleasure in His people; He will beautify the humble with salvation. 

"Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows"  Luke 12:6-7


 "The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing"  
                         Zephaniah 3:17 


He delights in me. I am wholly His.
  I am delighted in by the King of Kings.
Christ in me and me in Christ.
 I, Can do the impossible, Can shine His light, Can Be More. Can succeed. Can Be.
Through Christ  I can.
 I am worthy.
I am His.




"For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth" 

Psalm 139:13-15

Monday, February 22, 2016

who is defining success?


                 I like to keep things real and authentic when it comes to who I am. 
Failures, joys and sorrows alike. So to be real 'success' is something I have really been struggling with. I used to dream of becoming a Dr. growing up with God taking me on a different path that feels a little more humbling. From feeling like I am starting all over, like a kid still in high school by work at Chick Fil A (which isn't bad, somebody has to work there right?) with pressures to go to college and 'do something with my life' and whats funny is that pressure isn't from just certain family members,but society. I mentioned before how I felt I wasn't being lead to college in the past seasons of my life I was following the directions God was taking me at those times. Society puts pressure on the fact that to be somebody you have acquire 'Success'!
                        Who is defining success? 
             Who puts the stamp of approval of success on your life?
College and education is a huge privilege that we have here in the US and one that should be respected,but not one to define if you are failure in life or not. The amount and way we make our money is put on such a pedestal for success that we lose focus on life.
We have our awards and accomplishments in life,but what is all that in the end?!
        If some one is making money and has established themselves we call them successful.
Some who raise families that are intact great kids and marriage with long lives filled with memories we call that success,but not in the same way. Its more of a good job vs. I want to be like you and own the same stuff.

Success is defined by Noah Webster;
Terminating in accomplishing what is wished or intended; having the desired effect; happy; prosperous;

What are you intending/wishing? What effect do want to have where and how?
Prosperous in what?

5 Ways the world says you have success.

1. A "Career", that gives a pay check to enjoy the greater comforts of life.

2. Owning a house and a nice car.

3.  Being connected.  
Knowing all the right people = popularity & ups others opinion of you.

4. When you have to plan out your day to day prioritizing everything. 
Being busy sometimes seems so ideal,but it can be a major distraction.

5. Having the appearance of perfection.
 (lifestyle, looks,etc... the ideal life)


5 Ways I want to have success.

1.  Having no regrets.
I feel like in the end my biggest regret won't be my career path it would be not walking in obedience to where God places me. 

2. Laying up treasures in Heaven.
I don't want to invest what can be destroyed and holds no eternal value.

3. Being a servant.
When I meet someone who knows all the big time people, either in the business world, pop world, blogging world etc... Yeah, I would be impressed and lean towards wanting to hang out with them try to get and in,but when someone displays a servants heart and knows all the people at the homeless shelter. Less impressive on the world scale,but on the heavenly scale, I am impacted and inspired.
I want to be like that, I want to have that molded into my character. See #2.

4.  Investing.
I am not talking about money,but people, character, shaping yourself.
When we invest money we try to be wise, which will make a profit,bear fruit.
I want to be successful in bearing fruit in my life. 
In taking the time to listen to my siblings. Investing in myself through Christ. 
I admire people who don't go off of emotion and selfish needs/wants on what looks fulfilling to them. 
When you truly invest in others, without realizing it your investing in youself. 
In Gods Kingdom  (see #2)


5. Being real & True
 Ah,perfect people with the perfect life are idolized and people reach for what they have,but they don't know how. Why don't they know how? Because its not perfect and perfect people aren't easily approachable.
I never want to be so 'perfect' that people have a view of me of a struggleless, sinless, easy life.
I want to be true and real. That I am approachable for people to say hey, I am struggling with this can you pray for me give me advice..etc.. and vice versa I want my friends to be able to say hey, I see your struggling with this let me pray for you.
No one is better then another. I want to be real, true,approachable.

 


"Courage is knowing where your fear limits you and having what it takes to go beyond it."








Friday, February 12, 2016

to be

                                            February. Its been 5 days of being 21 years old.


This month welcomed a new age, a  new drivers license, beautiful flowers and a butterfly chair (gifts from my parents) to grace the presence of my room. 
 I celebrated my 21st in the best way possible, started with church worshiping my Savior, then to sweat pants and a hoodie,eating burgers for lunch with the family, reese ice cream cake almond crust and finished it off with a good old chick flick!

                  This new month and new age has had my mind reeling to a point of overwhelming me (actually that happens alot) But in the midst of my minds thoughts buzzing around up there I had a moment. I was reminded once again how I am truly blessed as I sat on my birthday at my family who truly loved me.
  You know those moments in a normal day when you pause and then are in that pause, filled with joy?! You take a breath, knowing you are deeply & passionately loved by the man who conquered death,lived selflessly, and forever changed the world He created and the people in it?! 
                                  A love so amazing.

                    As I turned 21 this week and have been mulling over my never ending to do list, scheduling my ACT, trying to figure out when would be a good time to yank out those wisdom teeth, taxes,work, blogging (I know,I know its dwindling.), photography, save for a car, getting involved in church, while figuring out what the world I am doing with my life and where I am going.
 I quickly lose focus. I become overwhelmed. I am a one track type of gal. I got burned out! 
        I try to think of everything I need to do and it all needs to be NOW! I mentally get fried.
This week, um, scheduling is happening. Weeding out what I can't/shouldn't do and what I 'Should' be doing and then have a free time list. ;)  I realized this week that February marks the longest I have lived in one place since the of Fall 2014. I have lost all sense of structure since,so many changes to my life and routines. So Bam! We know the problem, step 2; solve it!

            (My newlywed sister and I, bonfire night, thrift store dress find, all of the gang.)


 This past week I watched this movie called 'Belle' about a biracial girl lived with her white relatives in England during the Zong ship case. The young man in the movie (yes,theres the romance) inspired me. His zeal,passion,authenticity and sensitivity to the value of life just ignited inside of me. He wasn't of high rank,but he impacted. After that movie my mind raced and buzzed. I Could Not sleep! I wrote this done on paper cause getting my thoughts on paper usually help 80% of the problem.

          I am a World Changer with a Voice.
Every action,word and act from my being is a shout into the void. You never know if anyone sees or hears the shout and if they will answer or change upon hearing the call. Live with zeal and passion. Walk in truth. Jesus was a World Changer. A Voice in word and deed and it is He who dwells in me. He who I have joyfully and willingly surrendered to be His vessel. Take my hands,my heart,my zeal, oh, Lord. 

I am a World Changer. I am a Voice



                      My word for 2016 that I chose was "Audacity" To be Bold,to be Zealous.

                        I am so excited for this new year and new age. I am so excited to see what God does. How He will change and challenge me. Every year I grow in Him,every year I become more in awe of who He is with a thankful,humble and blessed spirit. Adventures,challenges,opportunities. 
         2016 I am here. 21 and ready to be.

Sunday, January 24, 2016

adulting - 5 things I learned


This past year I went on a little adventure (if you've been following my blog you already know this.) to Colorado for almost 6 months. It was apart of my 'gap year' I highly recommend taking a gap year or just a summer in between school to really dig deep into your identity in Christ. Do things, be challenged, be without your parents provision for a little while (we will always need out parents no matter our age). This journey taught me a lot about me and where I stand on things. It didn't take long being a conservative christian with fellow believers who had very diverse convictions for things surface and questions on 'the why' with different subjects. The way I dress, why I didn't or did this and that, etc.... I began to see what I did in my fathers house because it was the way my father was convicted to raise his family. I began to learn to answer either "I" believe this because____ Or  it's not a big deal to me,but my parents really prefer I that I do that,so while I am living under their roof I want to show respect to them and be an example to my younger siblings. I began to see how things effected Christians being raised in different environments, what made their faith strong through this or that,what I don't agree with,but why they believe that way. I wanted to share 5 highlighted things in the 5 months as I challenged and began to adult in life.
       
           5 Things I learned living temporarily away from home.

1. Learning how to stand on your own beliefs and not "its what my family beliefs' and hiding behind your parents. Know the what and why you do what you do and believe the way you do. Stand firm on truth,but be opened as God uses others to pour into and challenge aspect of your lifestyle. Sometimes we do things because its how its been and don't do things cause of fear. That why when challenged in areas of conviction and truth, fall back to the bible, research draw a conclusion to what God has shown you in His word and not what you are being told what to believe on that subject, whether a close friend, popular idea in the church, make sure its a grounded truth from Gods word. I think of the verse in 1 Peter that says:
"But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear"

2.  Problem solving and working through it. I had health issues while I was away and I didn't have my mom to help. Although I wasn't feeling the greatest I had a job to do in ministry at a working ranch. I didn't have time to mope,complain and pause life because I was facing a few minor health challenges and just wait as my mom would tell me what to do to fix everything. Problem solving,working through the health issues and various problems that came up with my own discernment was a great growing aspect. To work through a problem with little aid felt so good to do as scary and challenging as that sounds. (Although a shout out to some awesome girls who prayed over me, helped find me some meds, etc..)
3. Relationships. Hello, I am Blythe and I am a recovering people pleaser and recovering controlling peace keeper. I was making friendships and growing in my relationships with various ages,both genders and its no longer in a family groups or at church. It was room mates, dorm mates,leadership. 'co-workers'. Diverse personalities, different convictions/biblical beliefs, even different cultures (my room mate was from England). So it was great to use discernment, to be confident and myself, learn how to not just be friends with everyone or 'try' to be best buddies with everyone.
 

4. Seeing your own flaws. I feel like I was challenged with seeing a lot of my flaws. I saw being a people pleaser made me a follower. I didn't stand strong on things that weren't a sin,but weren't right,pure,true,Christlike aka they weren't a 'big deal',but things I just kinda went along with and went the flow of it, because I didn't want to be dramatic or make people annoyed with me because I was being  "sensitive to it." holding them to an extreme standard!!! Gossip was another huge one I got easily pulled into different sides and different views, I would mainly listen to different groups who were mainly struggling to get along with so and so etc.. Instead of saying hey we shouldn't be talking about this, lets focus on their good qualities. Instead I would again try to be a people pleaser and keep quiet add a few comments cause inside I agreed with what that person was saying (no one is perfect, everyone has flaws and when living with them you will see them). But even if stuff is true doesn't mean it should be said. Whats that saying, "If you don't have anything nice (positive) to say don't say anything at all."

5. The blind walk. Being away from home challenged my faith in ways I cannot explain. Christ is my identity without Him I am nothing,I would be purposeless and so lost. I honestly cannot imagine the unrest and lack of peace those must feel not knowing out Father. Being away from home as I said at #1 challenged my convictions,but also the homesickness,following through with my commitment there, just all the big changes going on in my life, lack of knowing the future just challenged me to cry out and lean on my Abba Father all the more and for the first time in a while I felt so at peace at where I was placed after each 'struggle' knowing where I am placed is where He wants me in that moment and I don't have worry about the future that He already has planned for me. I was awakened to spiritual warfare while working at a ministry trying to minister in Jesus name next to a Buddhist group who prayed to their god against us. If we aren't having our faith challenged pushing us to our Father and strengthening our relationships then we aren't growing. Those struggles can just be little daily challenges that pushes you closer to Him,to walk by faith in obedience to Him. God blesses His children,He is faithful and loves them,but as we seek to live as His children in a world that hates the name of the true King and Lord we will faces challenges. He is peace, He lives inside of you and I, our faith gets us through it. Life is tough and that's all there is to it,but when we have Him we have nothing to fear.
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    People talk how hard adulting is and being a kid was so care free. This is true, but they never say how freeing and confident building it is and how you have a terrifying adrenaline sensations surge through your body as you make decisions, use your own discernment and feel your body screaming inside that "WHOA, your doing something that the big kids get to do." As you look back a few months later and see how you've grown. 


Is adulting scary, hard work, more responsibility? Yes. But its exciting, challenging in a good feeling sorta way, thrilling, freeing, experiencing things you would never dream you could, opens possibilities. Adulting shouldn't be feared,but walked through with an attitude of confidence inknowing you serve a God who loves you and you can fall into His arms confident that when you walk in obedience to Him with Jesus as your Lord you won't fail at life you will just grow and learn.  A lot of these things would be things I knew,but I in a different way was challenged, I saw things in ways I wouldn't have at home with my family. I barely touched the surface of all the things that I learned,but most is hard to put to words how it impacted and made me grow.

I cannot not recommend enough what an amazing experience it is to plan your trip,make the decision handle all the details in your life and go somewhere from home where you aren't relying on your parents or having hem pay for things. I recommend traveling somewhere by plane or long road trip away without family (where there is some adult supervision/protection) to grow and push you into adulthood.
I deeply missed my family, considered coming home early,but through my reliance on God He showed me where to be and how to be all there. (You can read that story HERE )